I was lying about my age. What should I do?
   
RoseDrop
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I am a single woman, thirty-nine years old. I am in a two-year relationship with a man (thirty-five years old), but I originally lied and told him that I was thirty-four years old. We met through the Internet. At that time, I did not think about having a relationship like this, so I lied without giving it much thought. But now I do not know how and when to tell him the truth.

Yesterday, we talked about marriage a bit. It wasn’t like he proposed to me. It was just a casual conversation about marriage. I love him, and he also says he loves me. What should I do?

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Zimy
Tell him the true. Though he likes you very much, he will understand the facts. If you don't tell him now then if he informed it by other person, he can be heart. For that tell him the truth.
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Shep
Immediately sit him down and tell him that you could predict the future back then but you want to continue this relationship with absolutely no falsehoods between you.
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Tripper
Yes I agree it won't be easy to tell him after two years. But it will only get worse if you wait!
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Meow
Tell him the truth as soon as possible, if you guys do get married, he will find out sooner or later right?
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Wasp
Tell him, the sooner the better. Explaining the reason why you did it should be also good.
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pony
Tell him the truth. That's the best thing you could do
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Kiko
You need to tell him the truth. If he really loved you, he would forgive you.
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Gus
Stop lying about your age! He's not gonna care about those four years but he WILL care that you're lying to him!
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Leon
You should find a way to bring it up and then tell him that you only said that for the internet, and besides that is how old you look anyway.
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Vera
Tell him the truth. If he really loves you, he'll understand.
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Thug
Tell him the truth if it's love it shouldn't matter
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RoseDrop
I know telling the truth is the best thing. But I'm afraid of losing him. I don't want him to be disappointed. I can't admit that I'm thirty-nine to his face. I know I did this to myself, but I don't know how to tell him my true age. Please help me out.
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shepherd
tell him the truth
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Chippi
I will not loose your time that you should not have done it, but you have to make big step, risk and tell the truth. Truth and trust is main point of the marriage! Wish you good luck!
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Ismael
You MUST tell him. It's going to be harsh but the truth simply must come out soon. Honesty is the best policy.
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vvv
its commen at now a days
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vvv
its commen at now a days
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puff puff
Tell him the truth, starting a relationship on a lie is never a good thing but now that it has gotten this far you have no other choice but to admit your lie.
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Sheena
Tell him the truth. It is better to be honest and find out how he really feels about you than to go on under false pretences
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Sheena
If he truly loves you, he will understand when you explain that you lied about your age.
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Sheena
I would also advise that you explain to him that it was purely fear that made you lie.
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type username!
You definitely need to come clean.
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ABI
Tell him. Age is not a difficult thing unless you are too old to have kids and he wants kids
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allealle
you must tell him the truth!!! or else your relationship has no chance
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Dixie
I think you should continue to lie a bit longer. It would cause a shock, because 5 years its quite big difference you made to you.

I am happy you look younger if he believed you, but try to avoid such actions, as it has no future starting a relationship with lies.
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Zimy
Tell he truth to him. If you relationship is strong then he will take it easily.
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Kristina
that was not nice
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Kameroon
Tell him in a casual manner, don't make a big deal out of it, just say "oh, by the way, I'm 39, not 34". Then you can both laugh about it. (If he loves you, he won't care, and if for some reason he feels hurt you didn't tell him earlier, then tell him it was stupid to lie, you just liked him a lot and wanted to have a chance, and you thought that you wouldn't get that chance if you told him your real age).
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Jassy
It shouldn't be that big of a deal. You should just tell him your age.
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who
That was stupid thing to do, tell him
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dingo
you really need to tell him the truth. if he loves you, he'll understand.
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jiji
O god, i think it's no problem, sure, he now remember what you say at first about your age.
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Sissi
Tell him the truth, he will understand. If you're really afraid he might get mad, tell him you typed it wrong and when you noticed it you tought it was not that important to point it out because you still had no idea of how important he would become to you. Good luck! :)
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Bumbi
Don`t be too hard on yourself! So you lied about your age but then again who doesn`t? People lie for different reasons and your intentions were not evil.
Just tell him the truth nd explain why you did it. I am sure that he will understand. There is no point for him to make a big deal out of it if he really loves you.
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Misty
Tell him the truth. You have been together enough that he cares about you and will forgive you.
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Ann
You should tell him the truth. If he loves you, he will understand.
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vvv
its normal, if you love him u make possible to marry him,
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RoseDrop
I have something to tell you.I told him that I'm thirty-nine years old yesterday.

I asked him to go dinner in a nice restaurant. After some chats with him, I started to talk about the days we met. And I told him that I lied to him, and I'm regret lying to him.

He just forgave me. He said like "It's not that big deal. The important thing is you told me the truth. Thank you."

I'm the happiest woman in the world right now! Thanks for all of you on whisprr!!
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Kitty
if he loves you, he shouldnt have an issue with your real age. Also, good relationships arent based on lies. So you should tell him the truth.
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Mystemornings
Definitely tell the truth, a few years is not going to make a difference if he loves you.
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Kris
Truth absolutely!! It's only fair to be honest with him and if it's not to be then move on.
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Maria
Tell him the truth. That you were insecure about your age and you lied to him. And convince him you haven't lied about anything else in your life.
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